Welcome to Candler Mediation!
Conflict is a part of our daily lives, whether simply a difficult conversation or a dispute headed to litigation. By facing conflict instead of avoiding it or becoming burdened by it, you can develop a greater understanding of yourself and those you were in conflict with, and take steps toward agreements that work everyone.
SERVICES – Mediation, Consulting, Teaching/Training, Facilitation
I am a certified mediator, lawyer, teacher, and mother. I offer traditional mediation services, one-on-one conflict management coaching sessions, and group facilitation.
In each of these processes, I will aid in:
- Identifying issues, needs, and interests;
- Facilitating communication;
- Fostering and restoring connection and respect; and
- Enabling the participants to develop solutions that will work for all.
Situations that Would Benefit from Mediation or Consulting Sessions:
- You want to approach your neighbor about a fence issue and you would like to prevent conflict;
- Your marriage or partnership is in danger of ending;
- Someone in your workplace is in a pattern of negative behavior that you would like to deal with;
- You are retired and cannot come to an understanding with your adult children regarding how much time you spend together;
- Your best friend is no longer supportive or present now that you have kids and he does not;
- You would like to make a significant change in your life and you want to present it to those who you care about in a manner that will engender as much support as possible;
- You plan to ask for a raise;
- Your sister is not helping you deal with your ailing mother; or
- Your childcare provider is continually coming late and you have not had success addressing the issue.
Mediation is an informal and confidential way for people to resolve disputes with the help of a neutral facilitator. Mediation is a great way to identify underlining issues and interests and reach a solution that works for all participants.
Mediations are voluntary. All parties agree to mediate. The goal is to enable participants to develop creative solutions and agreements that work for everyone.
Mediation is an opportunity to honor relationships (neighbors, parents and teachers, spouses), increase understanding, and create effective solutions. As mediator, I will not provide the solutions or give advice. Mediation is not counseling or therapy. Even though I am a lawyer, I will not provide you with legal advice.
Sessions usually include 1-2 phone conversations with each party to assess the case, followed by a 2-3 hour mediation session. For more information about mediation services, please contact me by email at BerkeleyMediator.
CONSULTING, CONFLICT COACHING
There are times when mediation with the other party is not right for you. Maybe there are multiple people involved, and you prefer to gain clarity about your own feelings and interests before proceeding. Maybe the other party is unavailable (e.g., living elsewhere). Maybe the other party refuses to mediate. Maybe the issue is quite old, and you do not feel the other party still lives with the conflict. These are great times to consider a conflict coaching session.
A session entails a confidential, one-on-one process that focuses on developing and enhancing your skills to manage interpersonal conflict.
During the coaching session, you will talk with me as a neutral third party to help you deal with the conflict. As your facilitator, I will not provide solutions or advice. Rather, I will assist you in seeing different perspectives, in identifying your needs and interests at stake, and coming up with a plan of action. The coaching session is not counseling or therapy; I will not provide you with legal advice. It is an opportunity to aid you in assessing the situation and increase your skills in dealing with conflict.
Conflict coaching can be beneficial in several areas of dispute or tension: workplace, community or neighborhood, business, family or friendships (sometimes it is most difficult to empathize with those whom we are closest to).
Sessions are helpful whether you are anticipating conflict, in the midst of conflict, or after a solution to a problem has been found but tension or negative energy remains.
I aim to help you find an understanding that allows you to empathize with yourself and those you have conflict with, thereby allowing you to engage in a restorative and connecting way.
Workplace Conflict or Dysfunction:
We spend much of our time with our colleagues and in the workplace. Conflicts are bound to happen, but with the help of a facilitator, your workplace can decrease, prevent, or directly address problems that stem from miscommunications or lack of communication. In addition to specific workplace conflicts, facilitation can assist in addressing structural inefficiencies that effect the bottom-line of any organization.
As a facilitator, I provided skilled leadership in focusing groups on process, structure, and organization.
Examples of situations in non-profits, corporations, or governmental agencies that would benefit from effective facilitations include:
- Staff or board retreats;
- A series of meetings with groups of coworkers (e.g., addressing tensions among collaborators and inefficient meetings);
- Individualized conflict crisis management (e.g., one supervisor is having difficulty with several colleagues and supervisees);
- Meetings during transitions (e.g., a new executive director or revisions in the company mission statement); or
- Leadership training (e.g., new or established leaders seeking to identify and implement structures for best practices).
In a facilitation, I will assess the group’s needs to increase productivity, connections, and efficiency. Facilitations can involve:
- establishing best practices around group and individual decision making, planning effective meetings, and identifying agreements;
- building trust; and
- resolving conflicts.
GROUP FACILITATION – Non-Workplace
People who come together in community will have times of conflict and times of change where having an organized meeting with a facilitator can lead to improved connection, performance, and communication.
In a facilitation, I work to customize my approach to meet your group’s needs and interests. I will help you express and communicate to each other while identifying areas of commonality. I will help you work together to find an effective path to reaching your goals.
For more information about conflict coaching, contact me by email at BerkeleyMediator.